Being a mother takes a lot of our time and energy, that sometimes we forget that we are somebody. We are women with needs and feelings too. Who takes care of mom when she feels sick? Who helps mom cook or clean when she’s tired? Who does mom’s errands when she’s busy with something else? As the kids start to grow, we think they’ll need less of us, but it’s the complete opposite! Bigger kids, bigger problems! As moms, we get so caught up with the kids’ stuff that we forget about our own needs. And that is not good for anybody!
We have to remind ourselves that we are not just “mom”! Take a moment to relax and take care of yourself, because no one will do it for you! I’ve come to learn that self-care is utterly important for everyone but especially for moms. We take care of everyone and everything, yet leave ourselves last.
It’s hard for mommas to put themselves first, but it’s necessary. You can’t take care of others if you’re not okay. So what can we do? We learn to slow down and take a breath. How? It’s not easy, but with time and practice you’ll get better and the kids learn to respect your time.
Here’s a list of a few things that work for me:
- Breathing (yes! actual breathing, but there’s deep breathing exercises you can search for online!)
- A massage (I don’t have anyone to give me a massage, so I bought a neck and shoulder massager from Homedics, this shiatsu kneading is the best for tension and knots!)
- Exercise (I know, everyone says this, but it actually works to relieve stress! My favorite exercises are boxing, yoga and spinning! Also trying new things is exciting and helps distract the mind!)
- Scented Oils (my favorites are lavender to relax and eucalyptus for the headaches! They really work!)
- Melatonin (has been great for me, it helps me sleep through the night and it’s natural!)
- Blogging is my new favorite! Lol
Basically anything that distracts the mind from all the stressful things can help keep the mind and body healthy. You don’t need a lot of time, 10-20 minutes a day is what I usually take. We never think of how much stress affects our bodies until we get sick. Body aches, gastrointestinal issues, tension headaches, neck pain, depression and anxiety are some of the symptoms I’ve had due to stress. I had to learn to slow down, and I’m still learning. Sometimes I forget until my neck starts hurting so bad that I can’t function, so I have to start all over, but it does get easier.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself! Because you matter! Besides being a mom, you are YOU and that is what makes you a wonderful mother!